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Why Do Some People Succeed While Others Fail?

One of the things that has intrigued me for a long time is simply this..

What is the core issue behind why some people fail to achieve their goals, but others succeed?

After all, we’re all born with certain gifts, talents, and a good degree of intelligence too. Yet, these seem completely uncorrelated to the success that some people experience in life, or the mediocrity that others must tolerate as their lot.

The “super-talented” derelict is almost proverbial. Those with the most intelligence and talent frequently under-utilize both. You often see people in senior positions in business, giving orders to people with more intelligence and talent than they themselves ever had.

Many people strive to better their lives. They ponder and imagine their future, set goals, and maybe even make some serious effort to achieve those goals.

Yet, it all mysteriously comes to nothing.

So they end up doing the whole thing over, either with the same goal or with new ones.

However, they inevitably find that the cycle repeats. Nothing much is ever achieved.

goal setting

Set more goals? Visualize? But it’s failed already!

Maybe you have experienced this very thing in your own life? Many people have. And it’s very frustrating.

The prescription frequently given is basically to do more of the same. Set more goals. Get precise on what you really want. Visualize your future reality. Use more determination. Persist. And so on.

All of this is fine and well. It works for the right people at the right time. It should work for everyone, but apparently it doesn’t.

And there’s a simple reason for that. It’s not that some people are smarter or more talented. Intelligence and talent actually have little to do with it, as I mentioned.

No. There’s something else going on. Can you think what it
might be?…

I’ve pondered this issue for a long time. The answer is by no means obvious, but I think I’ve finally hit upon it.

And in the post tomorrow, I’m going to tell you what it is that causes this failure that so many people experience and are frustrated with.

In the meantime, think for yourself about this yourself. See if you can come up with the answer.

Asoka Selvarajah

Creator of The Confidence Cure